The other day, I was in the kitchen, wearing a classic shirt waist dress and an old school apron, chain smoking and generally looking like a discontent housewife, whilst I was cooking a big old home cooked meal for my darling husband. It was his favourite; cheeky Nandos style pot roast. Naturally, I’d never had any, because it’s important that a woman retains her figure, but he seemed to like it, so that’s the important thing.
My darling husband was late. He often arrived late, sometimes with lipstick on his collar, but he swore to me that he wasn’t having an affair so that was the end of that conversation. As I sat alone in the kitchen, with no one to keep me company but my children, I couldn’t help but glance at the salt shaker. It looked so boring. It was just a little ceramic pot with a few holes in it. I hated it. It was dull, drab, desolate, and it reminded me of the limitations of humanity.
I had no such qualms with the pepper shaker. I loved the pepper shaker.
With Valentine’s Day and the inevitable nuclear holocaust coming up, don’t we all just want someone with whom to watch as the mushroom clouds explode as you eat heart shaped candy? Well, here’s a post for all the straight male readers out there – that’s right, all three of you. Here’s a post on how to date a feminist; because as the world eats itself up, you need someone by your side to blame everything on the patriarchy. Read on straight dudes for the ultimate feminist dating guide.
As a pop culture junkie, I thought I may as well get some articles out of this crippling addiction. In Q’s Queue, we’ll be having a look at some of the hits, hidden gems and horrors found on my Streaming list, all through a feminist lens. Today’s venture:Parks and Recreation.
Are you upset with the state of politics right now? Brexit, Trump, Marine Le Pen. It just seems like the bad guys always win, and that everyone in politics is horrible. If you want to affirm that view, yeah you could go watch The Thick of It, or Veep, but today we’re going to be talking about one of the nicest shows of recent memory: Parks & Recreation.
On the day of the results I was having a pretty rubbish time; Trump had been elected, we had a really shit lecture, I was physically exhausted from election-related-anxiety. Everything about me that day screamed, “not having it.” At about midnight when I had worked myself up into a ball of anger and despair, I realised that I needed to chill, if only so that I could eventually get some sleep, so I immediately turned to Parks and Recreation.
As the first autumnal leaves begin to tumble and the humidity of summer rolls out, we at Boshemia thought that now would be the perfect time to pause and take a second to mull it all over, wondering what it all meant.
The past few months have been an incredibly busy time both in front of and behind the scenes at Boshemia HQ. Q & L’s visit to see E in the USA back in June was a big landmark in the Bo-calendar, and this season has also seen the launch of our new Women to Watch Wednesday series; reviews on pop culture and politics; no fewer than seven guest articles; and behind the scenes, two job scores and one impressive placement in South Africa.
By way of review we crafted a couple of questions for each other to reflect on Summer of 2016.
Since Stranger Things debuted on Netflix a few weeks ago, both Eileen and Sarah Q were obsessed. Instead of individual reviews, they decided to combine thoughts and discuss the show together, with an aim to cover more themes and create an open discourse on this wonderful show. If you’ve seen the show, feel free to join in on the discussion in the comments. Warning: here be spoilers.
There are a lot of things to be critical of Hillary Clinton. I cannot stand her foreign policy, Benghazi was messy (although not entirely her fault; that attack came after 20+ years of complex foreign relations), and the email scandal was a thing that happened. That being said, between Bernie-or-Bust and Trump supporters, people clearly think that Hillary Clinton is the devil incarnate, and she has been put under a lot more scrutiny than any of her male peers. People really do not like Hillary Clinton. People don’t like Donald Trump either, but that’s typically attributed to his sexist, racist, homophobic, xenophobic statements. With Hillary, it’s harder to distil exactly why people, people of all political leanings, hate her so much.
A good portion of our #boshemiababesreunion was spent drinking wine while watching overly romantic movies and swooning (I’ve realised we’ve driven straight into a whole bunch of female stereotypes but hey, most of our conversations passed the Bechdel test, it’s fine). As we drunkenly dissected these movies, there was one trait in particular that we found particularly swoon-worthy: vulnerability. When Ethan Hawke decides to risk it all and tell Julie Delpy he wanted to see her again we all just about died; the sheer courage and emotional risk was such a joy to watch. I’d love it if someone did something like that for me? Would I ever do anything like that? Fuck off would I, that shit looked scary. Typically, this string of cinema stirred within some inner reflection, so let’s have a look at vulnerability, shame, courage and most pertinently, fear.